I have been told that I am a hefty fellow. Other words used are: linebacker, brick wall, solid etc.
Therefore, I have never had the opportunity to jump out of a plane with a parachute. Now, given the choice and if I was not hefty (aka: above the safe weight limit), I am not too sure that I would willingly jump out of a perfectly good plane, but that is another story.
But here is what I was told by someone who used to parachute regularly.
When learning where to land, you are told to do the opposite of what you would naturally do. What is that, exactly? Well, we are trained to naturally look out for obstacles in life - when you walk on a trail, you are told you should keep an eye out for snakes. When you drive in wet weather, you are told to focus on the traffic ahead so you can anticipate breaking with more time.
When you jump out of a plane, you are directed to do the opposite. Do not focus on the power lines in an attempt to avoid them. Do not fix your eyes on the barn in the hopes that you will avoid it. Why? Because by nature, the very thing that you focus on to try to avoid will almost be the thing that you hit when you land.
How does this relate to life? The saying "better out than in" is often thrown around in therapy to ensure that you are getting your feelings out instead of keeping them trapped. However, there is a limit to this: if you focus too much on one thing - you will eventually hit it. Here is an example: say you struggle with low self-esteem, or a feeling of not being validated. If you never address these topics, you will swallow them down and they will surface later in a more agregious way. However, if you get them out and focus too much on them, you will begin to believe the lies that you tell yourself. You will focus too much on trying to avoid the barn that you will eventually hit it.
Instead, swim in your feelings for a little bit. Let whatever it is bothering you come out. Acknowledge it. Recognize it is there. But then, for your safety, move onto something else. As you are plummeting to the earth, note the barn, note the power lines, but do not focus on them. Recognize them, acknowledge their presence, then shift your focus and land in the drop zone - exactly where you were supposed to land.